Tuesday, June 21, 2011

Girl who reads

Date a girl who reads. Date a girl who spends her money on books instead of clothes. She has problems with closet space because she has too many books. Date a girl who has a list of books she wants to read, who has had a library card since she was twelve.

Find a girl who reads. You’ll know that she does because she will always have an unread book in her bag.She’s the one lovingly looking over the shelves in the bookstore, the one who quietly cries out when she finds the book she wants. You see the weird chick sniffing the pages of an old book in a second hand book shop? That’s the reader. They can never resist smelling the pages, especially when they are yellow.

She’s the girl reading while waiting in that coffee shop down the street. If you take a peek at her mug, the non-dairy creamer is floating on top because she’s kind of engrossed already. Lost in a world of the author’s making. Sit down. She might give you a glare, as most girls who read do not like to be interrupted. Ask her if she likes the book.

Buy her another cup of coffee.

Let her know what you really think of Murakami. See if she got through the first chapter of Fellowship. Understand that if she says she understood James Joyce’s Ulysses she’s just saying that to sound intelligent. Ask her if she loves Alice or she would like to be Alice.

It’s easy to date a girl who reads. Give her books for her birthday, for Christmas and for anniversaries. Give her the gift of words, in poetry, in song. Give her Neruda, Pound, Sexton, Cummings. Let her know that you understand that words are love. Understand that she knows the difference between books and reality but by god, she’s going to try to make her life a little like her favorite book. It will never be your fault if she does.

She has to give it a shot somehow.

Lie to her. If she understands syntax, she will understand your need to lie. Behind words are other things: motivation, value, nuance, dialogue. It will not be the end of the world.

Fail her. Because a girl who reads knows that failure always leads up to the climax. Because girls who understand that all things will come to end. That you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain or two.

Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read understand that people, like characters, develop. Except in the Twilight series.

If you find a girl who reads, keep her close. When you find her up at 2 AM clutching a book to her chest and weeping, make her a cup of tea and hold her. You may lose her for a couple of hours but she will always come back to you. She’ll talk as if the characters in the book are real, because for a while, they always are.

You will propose on a hot air balloon. Or during a rock concert. Or very casually next time she’s sick. Over Skype.

You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn’t burst and bled out all over your chest yet. You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will introduce your children to the Cat in the Hat and Aslan, maybe in the same day. You will walk the winters of your old age together and she will recite Keats under her breath while you shake the snow off your boots.

Date a girl who reads because you deserve it. You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you’re better off alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads.

Or better yet, date a girl who writes."
— Rosemary UrquicoSee More

searching for a new alias

i've stopped writing (or rambling or babbling or whatever i'm doing on this blog).

i don't expect anybody to read it. actually i don't think i want anybody to read it.

i've missed writing. although i only ramble or complain or do what i do on this, it helps me get a lot out of my chest ninety percent of the time.

i think a lot. i analyze a lot so at times, it really helps that i can just go on writing on this. i guess it's like a security blanket for me.

i used to feel that i need to write about something "interesting" or "exciting" and to help provide those content, i need to excite myself with a little drama. wrong move. i'm jumped from xanga (started blogging since 2003) to blogspot so i can show a more "grown up version" of myself. needless to say, the "serious" blogging came to a halt and the ramblings came up again. i guess it's just who i am. i have to think hard to write about "event" and "things" but it comes naturally for me to write how i "feel" and what i "think" about certain things.

so many i should just rename my blog from "spotted by the DQ" to "ramblings of the DQ" instead. on the other hand, maybe i should just create a new alias now...since "the DQ" is no where near any drama. she has retired from that era some time ago...

so should it be "ramblings of her" ? need to think about this new name....

everybody who have come across my username "theDQ" on BB etc have been questioning me what it stood for and when they found out questioned why since i'm so drama-free. guess the DQ grew up a bit.

Wednesday, June 15, 2011

non-dramatic drama.

bungee jumping, promoted, got myself a little darling chihuahua (Moet!), beach trip on its way.

a little demotivated at work. felt like being underpaid and undervalued.

a little bored a home. a little patience. a little loving. some tough loving needed (?)

i find that i operate better when i have time to love. devoting myself to little Moet who does not seem to be anywhere near to potty training. she smells because we can't give her a shower for a week due to vaccination.

i don't know what i'm doing.

Sunday, June 13, 2010

Juggling between career and family

I've faced many incidents when I had to try to justify my decision and explain why I've decide to focus on being a career-oriented woman.

Due to technology, background and many other factors, the roles of women and men have shifted and merged in the modern society, creating a jumble of confusion and complexities when it comes to dating and seeking for partnership today.

Men have become weaker, more self absorbed, emotional and sensitive and less of a gentleman. The need to protect the weaker sex have vanished.

Women, on the other hand, have risen in terms of career, holding high flying jobs, have become more independent, self-serving and stronger.

When the weak have lessen, the need for the protector also disappears.

Women used to be the caretaker of the family while men provide. These days, women are strong enough to take care of herself in addition to her own family.

Men are not given the chance to be gentlemen for women do not act like ladies.

While given the option to focus on family or their career, most women in the modern society would choose the latter for many reasons. To possess the ability to stand on their own feet? To prove that they can also make it in this world? To provide a back up plan for maybe one day maybe she won't meet the right partner to start a family? Or just a back up plan in case that partnership does not survive?

I've always been focused on making it on my own and depending on myself due to my family background and the environment I grew up in. But if I could choose, I would gladly sacrifice my career and the want to have to rise and succeed in work to have a happy family and stay at home just to raise my kids.

Thursday, June 3, 2010

June: Activity Month

Starting to spend money again but not afraid to spend it. For the last few months, I've been scared to spend the money I earn in fear of not being able to save.
Booked myself for dinner with some friends tonight and tomorrow night in addition to Rock Climbing on Saturday with my sissy poo.

I want to get hair extensions but that would mean $$$$ again but right now can't I do what I want to do? I have put away an amount of last month's salary into the bank already so yeah....><

Things I want to do this month.

-Watch Sex and the City 2.
-Watch Iron man 2.
-Watch Prince of Persia.
-Get hair extensions.
-Rock climbing session.
-Meet up more with my friends.
-Do a beach trip to Pranburi to chill.
-Les D'z sleepover and facial night.

I just need a month full of activities, hopefully to exhaust me so I can fall asleep on my bed and not think too much.

Tuesday, March 16, 2010


I'm tired.
Want to give up everything.
Wants to run away from everything.
With nobody else.
Just me.
I hate depending on people.
And when I'm disappointed.
If its just me, the only person who can disappoint me is me.

Monday, February 8, 2010

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Half of my heart's got a grip of the situation.
Half of my heart takes time....